Books About Adoption


There are hundreds of books dealing with “adoption”, “adoptive parents”, “adoption searching”, “adoption psychology”, “adoption memoirs”, “adoption studies” and so on. The following titles are just some of those that Parent Finders has collected and noted over the years. We have also included a few self-help titles.

Many points of view are represented here. Some you may not agree with.  Some of these books are out of date and may be of historic interest only. Many are wonderful documents and important reading for anyone venturing into the world of adoption search and reunion. If you know of a book not listed here that should be, please e-mail the title and the author to us.

We have separated the titles listed below into several categories.  The categories are indicated by “the bracketed letters, G, A and BP” at the end of each title entry.  These categories are merely a guideline.  They in no way judge or dictate which book is best for anyone to read!

G = General Information about Adoption

A = First person stories by Adoptees, and books about the issues and experiences of Adoptees

BP = Stories by and about Birth Parents with focus on parent issues

AP = Of particular interest to Adoptive Parents

S = About Adoption Search and Reunion


Adopted? A Canadian Guide for Adopted Adults in Search of Origins, Claire Marcus, 1979 (S)

Adopted Break Silence, The, Jean Paton, 1954 – (A)

Adopted Woman, An, Katrina Maxtone-Graham, 1983 – (A)

Adoptees Come of Age: Living Within Two Families, Ronald Nydam, 1999 – (G)

Adoptee Trauma: A Counseling Guide for Adoptees, Heather Carlini, 1993 – (G)

Adoption: A Handful of Hope, Suzanne Arms, 1995 – (G)

Adoption and Healing: Proceedings of the International Conference on Adoption and Healing, 1997 – (G)

Adoption and Loss: The Hidden Grief, Evelyn Robinson, 2005 – (G)

Adoption and Recovery: Solving the Mystery of Reunion, Evelyn Robinson, 2006 – (G)

Adoption and the Family System: Strategies for Treatment, Miriam Reitz and Kenneth Watson, 1992 – (G)

Adoption and the Sexually Abused Child, Joan McNamara and Bernard McNamara (editors), 1990 – (G)

Adoption: Charms and Rituals for Healing, Randolph W. Severson, 1991 – (G)

Adoption Constellation, The: New Ways of Thinking About and Practicing Adoption, Michael Grand, 2011 – (G)

Adoption: Current Issues and Trends, Paul Sachdez, 1984 – (G)

Adoption Encounter: Hurt, Transition, Healing, Mary Jo Rillera, 1987- (G)

Adoption Healing – A Path to Recovery for Mothers Who Lost Children to Adoption, Joe Soll, 2000 – (BP)

Adoption: How it Works, Linda C. Burgess, 1989 – (G)

Adoption in Canada, Michael Sobol and Kerry Daly, 1994 – (G)

Adoption in America Coming of Age, Hal Aigner, 1992 – (G)

Adoption Life Cycle, The, Elinor B. Rosenberg, 2010 – (G)

Adoption Nation: How the Adoption Revolution is Transforming Our Families – and America, Adam Pertman, 2011 – (G)

Adoption: Philosophy and Experience, Randolph W. Severson, 1994 – (G)

Adoption Politics: Bastard Nation and Ballot Initiative 58, E. Wayne Carp, 2004 – (G)

Adoption Reader – Birth Mothers, Adoptive Mothers, and Adoptive Daughters Tell Their Stories, Susan Wadia-Ells, 1995 – (BP) (A) (AP)

Adoption Reunions: A Book for Adoptees, Birth Parents and Adoptive Families, Michelle McColm, 1993 – (A) (BP) (AP)

Adoption Reunion: Ecstasy or Agony, Evelyn Robinson, 2009 – (G)

Adoption Reunion Survival Guide: Preparing Yourself for the Search, Reunion, and Beyond, Julie Bailey and Lynn Giddens, 2001 – (S)

Adoption Separation: Then and Now, Evelyn Robinson, 2010 – (G)

Adoption: The Facts, Feelings and Issues of a Double Heritage, Jeanne DuPrau, 1990 – (A)

Adoption Today, Jenny Rockel and Murray Ryburn, 1988 – (G)

Adoption Triangle, The: A Guide to the Issues and Feelings of Adoption, Arthur Sorosky, Annette Baran, and Reuben Pannor, 2008 – (A) (BP) (AP)

Adoption Wisdom: A Guide to the Issues and Feelings of Adoption, Marlou Russell, 2010 – (G)

Adoptive Kinship: A Modern Institution in Need of Reform, David M. Kirk, 1985 – (G)

Art of Adoption, The, Linda Cannon Burgess, 1981 – (G)


Baby Makers, The, Diana Frank and Marta Vogel, 1988 _ (G)

Baby Thief, The: The Untold Story of Georgia Tann, the Baby Seller Who Corrupted Adoption, Barbara Bisantz Raymond, 2009 – (G)

Baby Swap Conspiracy, The: The Shocking Truth Behind the Florida Case of Two Babies Switched at Birth, Loretta Schwartz-Nobel, 1993 – (G)

Becoming Patrick: A Memoir, Patrick McMahon, 2011 – (A)

Beggars and Choosers: How the Politics of Choice Shapes Adoption, Abortion, and Welfare in the United States, Rickie Solinger, 2001-(G)

Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self, David M. Brodzinsky, Marshall D. Schechter, and Robin Henig, 1993 – (A)

Birth Bond: Reunions Between Birthparents and Adoptees – What Happens After? Judith S. Gediman and Linda P. Brown, 1991 – (A) (BP)

Birth Fathers and their Adoption Experiences, Gary Clapton, 2008 – (BP)

Birth Mother: The Story of America’s First Legal Surrogate Mother, Elizabeth Kane, 1988 – (G)

Birth Mother Trauma: A Counseling Guide for Birth Mothers, Heather Carlini, 1992 – (BP)

Birthmothers: Women Who Have Relinquished Babies for Adoption Tell Their Stories, Merry Bloch Jones, 2000 – (BP)

Birthright: The Guide to Search and Reunion for Adoptees, Birthparents and Adoptive Parents, Jean Strauss, 1994 – (A) (BP) (AP) (S)

Black Market Baby, Renee Clark, 2013 (G)  – check the website for more information

Blessings, Belva Plain, 1990 [novel] – (G)

Blind in One Eye: A Story About Seeing the Possibilities, David Ford, 2010 [memoir] – (A)

Bridge Less Traveled, A: Twice Visited, Robert Andersen and Rhonda Tucker, 2000 – (A)

Bubble Wrapped Children: How Social Networking is Transforming the Face of 21st Century Adoption, Helen Oakwater, 2012 – (G)

Butterbox Babies, Bette L. Cahill, 2006 – (G)


Changing Practises in Adoption, Ruth G. McRoy, Harold D. Grotevant, Susan Ayers-Lopez, 1994 – (G)

Can You Wave Bye Bye, Baby? Stories, Elyse Gasco, 2000 – (B/M)

Chasing Away the Shadows: An Adoptee’s Journey to Motherhood, Zara Phillips, 2004 [memoir]

Chasing Rainbows: A Search for Family Ties, Laurel Lynn, 1992 [memoir] – (A) (B/M)

Children of the Dragonfly: Native American Voices on Child Custody and Education, Robert Bensen, editor, 2001 – (G)

Child of Rage, Glenn M. Hester and Bruce Nygren, 1982 [memoir] – (A) (G)

Clinical and Practice Issues in Adoption – Revised and Updated: Bridging the Gap Between Adoptees Placed as Infants and as Older Children, Victor K. Groza, Karen F. Rosenberg, and Victor F. Groza, 2001 – (G)

Clinical Practice in Adoption (Psychology Practitioner Guidebooks), Robin Winkler, Dirck Brown, Margaret Keppel, and Amy Blanchard, 1988 – (G)

Coming Home to Self: The Adopted Child Grows Up, Nancy Newton Verrier, 2003 – (A/P) (B/P)

Confessions of a Lost Mother, Elisa M. Barton, 1996 – (B/P)

Courageous Blessing: Adoptive Parents and the Search, Carol L. Demuth, 1993 – (A/P)

Cries of the Soul: the True Story of a Korean Adoptee’s Fight to Survive, Kara Niné, 2013 (A)

Crying Shame, A, Carol J. Tieman, 1994 [memoir] – (B/P)


Dark Side of Adoption, The, Marsha Riben, 1988 (G)

Dear Birthmother, Kathleen Silber and Phyllis Speedlin, 1991- (A/P)

Death by Adoption, Joss Shawyer, 1979 – (A)

Death in White Bear Lake, A: True Chronicle of an All-American Town, Barry Siegel, 2000 – (G)

Deep End of the Ocean, The, Jacquelyne Mitchard, 1999 [novel] – (G)

Did My First Mother Love Me? A Story for an Adopted Child, Kathryn Ann Miller, 1994 [children’s fiction] – (A)

Disturbing the Peace, Nancy Newman, 2000 [novel] – G)

Don’t Call Her Lisa Steinberg, Michelle Launders and Penina Spiegel, 1991 – (G)


Empty Arms, Erika Liodice, 2012 [novel] – B/P)

Empty Cradles, Margaret Humphreys, 1996 – (B/P)

English American, The, Alison Larkin, 2009 [novel] – (A)

Ever After: Fathers and the Impact of Adoption, Gary Coles, 2006 – (B/P)

Evil Exchange, Lori Paris and Joe Soll, 2007 [mystery novel] – (G)

Exploring Adoptive Family Life: The Collected Adoption Papers of H. David Kirk, H. David  Kirk and Beverly Tansey, 1988 – (G)


Face in the Mirror, The: Teenagers and Adoption, Marion Crook, 2000 – (A)

Faces of Adoption, E. Lynn Giddens, 1983 – (G)

Family of Adoption, The, Joyce Maguire Pavao, 2005 – (G)

Family Matters: Secrecy and Disclosure in the History of Adoption, E. Wayne Carp, 2000 – (G)

Family Secrets: How Telling and Not Telling Affect Our Children, Our Relationships and Our Lives, Harriet Webster, 1992 – (G)

Fifty Years in 13 Days: A Mother/Daughter Reunion, Katie DeCosse & Jackie Maher, 2009  (A) (B/P) (S)

Find A Stranger, Say Goodbye, Lois Lowry, 1978 [novel] – (G)

Finding Family, Rick Ouston, 1994 [memoir] – (A)

Finding My Family, Belle Curd, 1978 – (A)

Finding My Father: One Man’s Search for Identity, Rod McKuen, 1977 [memoir] – (A)

Following the Tambourine Man: A Birthmother’s Memoir, Janet Mason Ellerby, 2007 – (B/P)

Fortune’s Daughter, Alice Hoffman, 1999 [novel] – (G)

Foster Child, Marion Dane Bauer, 1993 [novel] – (G)

Fugitive Visions: An Adoptee’s Return to Korea, Jane Jeong Trenka 2009,  (A)


Gathering the Missing Pieces in an Adopted Life, Kay Wheeler Moore, 2009 – (A)

Gift Wrapped in Sorrow, The: A Mother’s Quest for Healing, Jane Guttman, 1999 – (B/P)

Giving Away Simone, Jan L. Waldron, 1997 [memoir] – (B/P)

Girls Who Went Away, The: The Hidden History of Women Who Surrendered Children for Adoption in the Decades Before Roe v. Wade, Ann Fessler, 2007 – (G) (B/P)

Gone to an Aunt’s: Remembering Canada’s Homes for Unwed Mothers, Anne Petrie, 1999 – (B/P) (G)

Growing in the Dark: Adoption Secrecy and its Consequences, Janine M. Baer, 2004 – (A)


Half a Million Women, David Howe, Phillida Sawbridge, Diana Hinings, 1992 – (B/P)

Half Way Home! Contact and Reunion Guidelines, Lynn-Claire Davis, 1995 – (S)

Hidden Lives: A Family Memoir, Margaret Forster, 2001 – (A) (B/P)

How It Feels To Be Adopted, Jill Krementz, 1988 – (A)


Imagining Adoption: Essays on Literature and Culture, Marianne Novy (editor), 2004 – (G)

Immaculate Deception II; Myth, Magic and Birth, Suzanne Arms, 1994 – (G) (B/P)

I’m Still Me, Betty Jean Lifton, 1982 [teen novel] – (A)

In Search of a Stranger, Warren E. Siegmond, 1981 – (A)

In Search of Mom: Journey of an Adoptee, Michael Watson, 1998 – (A)

In Search of Origins, the Experiences of Adopted People, John Triseliotis, 1973 – (G)

In a Country of Mothers, A.M. Homes, 1994 [novel] – (B/P) (A)

Innocent Blood, P.D. James, 2001 [novel] – (G)

Invisible Men of Adoption, The, Gary Coles, 2011 – (A) (B/P)

Invitation, The, Joan Haggerty, 1994 – (G)

Ithaka: A Daughter’s Memoir of Being Found, Sarah Saffian, 1999 – (A)

I Would Have Searched Forever, Sandra Kay Musser, 1992 – (B/P)


Jody, Jerry Hulse, 1977 [novel] – (G)

Joined at the Heart: A True Story of Love and Courage, Nance Vizedom, 2004 – (B/P)

Journey of the Adopted Self: A Quest for Wholeness, Betty Jean Lifton, 1995 – (A)

Journeys After Adoption: Understanding Lifelong Issues, Jayne E. Schooler and Betsie L. Norris, 2002 – (G)


Kindness of Strangers, The: The Abandonment of Children in Western Europe from Late Antiquity to the Renaissance, John Boswell, 1998 – (G)


Lethal Secrets, Annette Baran and Reuben Pannor, 1989 – (G)

Letters to Louise: A Loving Memoir to the Daughter I Gave Up for Adoption More than Twenty Years Ago, Pauline Collins, 1992 – (B/P)

Letters to Muriel: A Search for Kin, Helen Deachman, 1999 – (A)

Letters to my Birthmother: An Adoptee’s Diary of Her Search for Her Identity, Amy Dean, 1991 – (A)

Living Mistakes: Mothers Who Consented to Adoption, Kate Inglis, 1984 – (B/P)

Locating Birth Family: A Searcher’s Guide, Karen DeLuca, 2003 – (S)

Looking for Lisa, Libby Harkness, 1991 – (B/P)

Losing Isaiah, Seth Jacob Margolis, 1994 [novel] – (G)

Lost and Found: The Adoption Experience, Betty Jean Lifton, 2009 – (G)

Lost Father, The, Mona Simpson, 1993 [novel] – (G)

Love Child: A Memoir of Adoption Reunion, Loss and Love, Sue Elliott, 2005 – (B/P)

Luke Baldwin’s Vow, Morley Callaghan, 1995 [novel] – (G)

Lueurs originelles: témoignages, Caroline Fortin, 2003 [in French] – (G) (B/P)


Man and His Mother, A: An Adopted Son’s Search, Tim Green, 2000 – (A)

May the Circle be Unbroken: An Intimate Journey into the Heart of Adoption, Lynn Franklin, 2005 – (B/P)

Memory Keeper’s Daughter, The, Kim Edwards, 2006 [novel] – (G)

Missing Links: The True Story of an Adoptee’s Search for His Birth Parents, Vincent J. Begley, 1991 – (A)

Missing Piece, The, Lee Ezell, 1992 – (A)

Mommie Dearest, Christina Crawford, 1979 [memoir] – (A)

Mother Bound, Jill Johnston, 1983 – (A)

Mother, Can You Hear Me? The Extraordinary True Story of an Adopted Daughter’s Reunion with her Birthmother, Elizabeth Cooper Allen, 1983 – (A)

Mother’s Song, A, Claire Harrison, 1994 [novel] – (G)

Mourning Unlived Lives: A Psychological Study of Childbearing Loss, Judith A. Savage, 1989 – (G)

Mrs. McGinty’s Dead, Agatha Christie, 1967 [mystery novel] – (G)

My Child is a Mother, Mary Stephenson, 1991 – (A/P)

My Father’s Daughter: A Story of Family and Belonging, Hannah Pool, 2006 [memoir] – (A)

My Name’s Not Susie, Sharon J. Hamilton, 1997 [memoir] – (A)

My Search for Catherine Anne: One Man’s Story of an Adoption Reunion, Barrie Clark, 1989 [memoir] – (B/P)


No Time to Wave Goodbye, Ben Wicks, 1990 [memoir] – (G)

Not Remembered, Never Forgotten, Robert Hafetz, 2008 [memoir] – (A)


Once Removed: Voices from Inside the Adoption Triangle, Wendie Redmond and Sherry Sleightholm, 1982 – (G)

Open Adoption, An, Lincoln Caplan, 1990 – (A/P) (G)

Oranges Are Not the Only Fruit, Jeanette Winterson, 2011 [novel] – (A) (G)

Orphans, Eileen Simpson, 1990 [adoption history] – (G)

Orphan Sage, Shirley MacKenzie, 2012 [poetry and paintings] – (G) (A)

Orphan Voyage, Ruthena Hill Kittson, 1980 [adoption history] – (G)

Other Side of My Life, The, D. Gary Deatherage, 1992 [memoir] – (A)

Other Mother, The: A True Story, Carol Schaefer, 1992 [memoir] – (B/P)

Other Sister, The, S.T. Underdahl, 2007 [novel]

Outer Search/Inner Journey, Peter Dodds and Elizabeth Lyon, 1997 [memoir] – (A)

Out of the Shadows: Birthfathers’ Stories, Mary Martin Mason, 1995 – (B/P)


Parole d’adopté, Fabrice Delfieu et Joelle de Gravelaine, 1988 [French] (A) (G)

Penny Saved, A: An Adopted Child’s Discovery of the Ties that Bind, Penny Nisbet, 2000 [memoir] – (A)

Perspectives on a Grafted Tree: Thoughts for those Touched by Adoption, compiled by Patricia Irwin Johnston and Diane L. Stanley, 1983 [poetry] – (G)

Pigs in Heaven, Barbara Kingsolver, 1994 [novel] – (G)

Primal Wound, The: Understanding the Adopted Child, Nancy Newton Verrier, 1993 – (G)

Psychology of Adoption, The, David M. Brodzinsky and Marshall Schechter, 1998 – (G)


Rachel Weeping, Winsome Smith, 1991 [novel] – (B/P)

Reading Adoption: Family and Difference in Fiction and Drama, Marianne Novy, 2007 – (G)

Recreating Motherhood, Barbara Katz Rothman, 2000 – (G)

Remembering: Reflections of Growing up Adopted: Stories, Poems, Essays and Feelings of Adult Adoptees, Jeffrey R. LaCure, 1995 – (A)

Reunion, A Year in Letters Between a Birthmother and the Daughter She Couldn’t Keep, Katie Hern and Ellen McGarry Carlson, 1999 – (B/P) (A)

Reunion Book, The, Mary Jo Rillera, 1991 – (S) (G)

Reunion: The Search for My Birth Family, Madelene Allen, 1994 – (A)

Rewriting the Script: An Adoption Story, Rod Holm, 1994 – (A)

Right to Know Who You Are, The: Reform of Adoption Law, Keith Griffith, 1992 – (G)


Sacred Bond, Phyllis Chesler, 1988 [surrogate mothers] – (G)

Sans toi: Ces femmes qui ont abandonné leur enfant, 2002, Colette Frere [French] – (B/P)

Sarah’s Adoption Story – Children’s Activity Book (American Adoption Congress publication)

Saying Goodbye to a Baby: Birthparent’s Guide to Loss and Grief in Adoption, Patricia Roles, 1989 – (B/P)

Search: A Handbook for Adoptees and Birthparents, Jayne Askin, 1988 – (S)

Search for Anna Fisher,The, Florence Fisher, 1986 [memoir] – (A)

Searching for a Past: The Adopted Adult’s Unique Process of Finding Identity, Jayne E. Schooler, 1995 – (A)

Second Choice: Growing Up Adopted, Robert Anderson, 1993 – (A)

Secret Child, Nancy Moore, 1986 [memoir] – (B/P)

Secret Daughter, Shilpi Somaya Gowda, 2011 [novel]  – (G)

Secret Life of the Unborn Child, The, Thomas Verny and John Kelly, 1982 – (G)

Shadow Baby, Margaret Forster, 1997 [novel] – (G) (B/P)

Shadow Mothers: Stories of Adoption and Reunion, Linda Back McKay, 1998 – (B/P)

Shadow Train: A Journey Between Relinquishment and Reunion, Patricia Taylor, 1995 – (B/P)

Shared Fate: A Theory and Method of Adoptive Relationships, H. David Kirk, 1994 – (G)

Sibling Reunions: A Letter to Those Who Have Been Contacted, Randolph Severson, 1991 – (G)

So Here I Am! But Where Did I Come From? An Adoptee’s Search for Identity, Mary Ruth Wotherspoon, 1994 – (A)

Solomon Decision: Whose Child is This? An Adoption Dialogue , Kate Pijanowski, 1989 – (G)

Somebody’s Baby, Claire Harrison, 1989 [novel] ((B/P)

Someone Else’s Baby, Geraldine Kaye, 1986 [novel] – (B/P)

So You’re Adopted, Fred Powledge, 1982 – (A)

Soul Connection: Memoir of a Birthmother’s Healing Journey, Ann H. Hughes, 1999 – (B/P)

Steven’s Baseball Mitt: A Book About Being Adopted, Kathy Stinson, 1992 [Children’s fiction]

Stories of Adoption Loss and Reunion, Eric Blau, 1993 – (G)

Stork Market, The: America’s Multi-billion Dollar Unregulated Adoption Industry, Mirah Riben, 2007 – (G)

Stranger Who Bore Me, The: Adoptee- Birth Mother Relationships, Karen March, 1995 – (A) (B/P)

Surrendered Child: A Birth Mother’s Journey, Karen Sayer McElmurray, 2006 [memoir] – (B/P)

Swap, Norma Klein, 1984 [novel] – (G)

Swimming up the Sun: A Memoir of Adoption, Nicole J. Burton, 2008 – (A)

Synchronicity and Reunion: The Genetic Connection of Adoptees and Birthparents, LaVonne Harper Stiffler, 1992 – (G)


Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born, Jamie Lee Curtis, 2009 [Children’s fiction]

Tell Me a Real Adoption Story, Betty Jean Lifton, 1994 [Children’s fiction]

The Child Catchers: Rescue, Trafficking and the New Gospel of Adoption, Kathryn Joyce, 2013  (G)

The Special Chosen One, Susan Beckman, 2013 (A/P)

Time to Search, A: The Moving and Dramatic Stories of Adoptees in Search of their Natural Parents, Henry Ehrlich, 1977 – (A)

Thank You Son for Finding Me: A Birthmother’s Story, Beth Kane, 1999 – (B/P)

Then She Found Me, Elinor Lipman, 1991 [novel] – (A) (G)

To Keera With Love: Abortion, Adoption or Keeping the Baby, Kayla M. Becker and Connie. K. Heckert, 1989 – (G)

To Love and Let Go, Suzanne Arms, 1983 – (G)

To Prison With Love, Sandy Musser, 1994 [memoir] – (B/P) (G)

Torn From the Heart: A Birthmother’s Search for her Lost Daughter, Louise Jurgens, 1992 – (B/P)

Transparents: Seeing Through the Legacy of Adoption, Gary Coles, 2008 – (G)

Truth about Marvin Kalish, The, Martin Samuel Cohen, 1992 [novel] – (A) (G)

Twice Born: Memoirs of an Adopted Daughter, Betty Jean Lifton, 2006 – (A)

Twins, The, Tessa de Loo and Ruth Levitt, 2003 [novel] _(G)

Twins Who Found Each Other, The, Bard Lindeman, 1971 – (G)


Uncommon Knowledge, Judy Lewis, 1995 [memoir] – (A)

Unlocking the Adoption Files, Paul Sachdev, 1990 – (G)


Wake up Little Susie: Single Pregnancy and Race Before Roe vs Wade, Ricky Solinger, 1992 [adoption history] – (G)

Wanted: First Child: A Birth Mother’s Story with the Adoption Process, Rebecca Harsin, 1991 – (B/P)

What Kind of Love is This? Sandra Kay Musser, 1982 – (B/P)

Where Are My Birth Parents? A Guide for Teenage Adoptees, Karen Gravelle and Susan Fischer, 1999 – (A)

When Children Want Children: The Urban Crisis of Teenage Childbearing, Leon Dash, 2003 – (G)

When the Boys Came Marching Home, Ben Wicks, 1991 – (G)

Which Mother is Mine? Joan Oppenheimer, 1980 – (A)

Who is David? The Story of an Adopted Adolescent and His Friends, Evelyn Nerlove, 1985 [Teen fiction]

Who is My Mother? Birth Parents, Adoptive Parents and Adoptees Talk About Living With Adoption and the Search for the Lost Family, Clare Marcus, 1981 – (G)

Whose Child? An Adoptee’s Healing Journey from Relinquishment through Reunion…and Beyond, Kasey Hamner, 2000 – (A)

Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal? Jeanette Winterson, 2012 [memoir] – (A)

Why Didn’t She Keep Me? Answers to the Questions Every Adopted Child Asks, Barbara Burlingham-Brown, 1998 – (A)

Within Me, Without Me: Adoption: An Open and Shut Case? Sue Wells, 1994 [memoir] – (B/P)

Without a Map, Meredith Hall, 2008 [memoir] – (B/P)


Yesterday They Took My Baby: True Stories of Adoption, Ben Wicks, 1993 – (G)


Books for Adoptive Parents

Adopt the Baby You Want, Michael R. Sullivan, 1980

Adopted Family, The, Florence Rondell and Ruth Michaels Rondell, 1965

Adopted One, The: An Open Family Book for Parents and Children Together, Sara Bonnett Stein, 1979

Adoption: Grafted Tree, The, Laurie Wishard and William Wishard, 1980

Adoption Resource Book, The: Everything You Ought to Know About Creating an Adoptive Family, 4th edition, Lois Gilman, 1998

Adoption Without Fear, James L. Gritter, 1989

Canadian Adoption Guide, The – A Family at Last, Judith Wine, 1995

How to Raise an Adopted Child, Judith Schaffer and Christina Lindstrom, 1991

Keys to Parenting an Adopted Child, Kathy Lancaster, 2009

Making Sense of Adoption: A Parent’s Guide, Lois Ruskai Melina, 1989

Open Adoption – A Caring Option, Jeanne Warren Lindsay, 1987

Our Son a Stranger: Adoption Breakdown and its Effects on Parents, Marie Adams, 2002 [memoir] – also (A) (G)

Parents, Children and Adoption: A Handbook for Adoption Workers, Jane Rowe, 1966

Penguin Adoption Handbook, The, Revised Edition, Edmund Blair Bolles, 1993

Private Adoption Handbook, The, Stanley Michelman, 1990

Raising Adopted Children, Revised Edition: Practical Reassuring Advice for Every Adoptive Parent, Lois Ruskai Melina, 1998

Searching for the Stork: One Couple’s Struggle to Start a Family, Marion Lee Wasserman, 1988

Talking With Young Children about Adoption, Mary Watkins and Susan Fisher, 1995

Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or Fostered Children: Making Sense of the Past, Betsy Keefer and Jayne E. Schooler, 2000

Well-functioning Families for Adoptive and Foster Children: A Handbook for Child Welfare Workers, Joyce S. Cohen and Anne Westhues, 1990


Useful Self-help Books

Adult Children of Alcoholics, Janet G. Woititz, 1990

Bradshaw On The Family: A New Way of Creating Solid Self-esteem, John Bradshaw, 1990

Children and Grief: Helping Your Child Understand Death, Joey O’Connor, 2004

Dance of Anger, The: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships, Harriet Lerner, 2005

EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing, Francine Shapiro, 1997

Healing the Child Within, Charles L. Whitfield, 1987

Healing the Family Tree, Kenneth McAll, 2013

Healing the Shame that Binds You (Recovery Classics), John Bradshaw, 2005

Helping Women Cope With Grief, Phyllis P. Silverman, 1981

Helping Your Child to Understand Death, Anna W. Wolf, 1973 [Booklet]

Letting Go of Shame: Understanding How Shame Affects Your Life, Ronald Potter-Efron, 1989

Life After Loss: Conquering Grief and Finding Hope, Raymond Moody and Dianne Arcangel, 2002

Never to be a Mother: A Guide for All Women who Didn’t – or Couldn’t – Have Children, Linda Hunt Anton, 1992

Toxic Parents, Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life, Susan Forward and Craig Buck, 2003

Secrets, Lies, Betrayals: How the Body Holds the Secrets of a Life, and How to Unlock Them, Maggie Scarf, 2005



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